Couples Therapy
You keep having the same argument. You want to find a different way through it.
You start a conversation hoping your partner will understand. Before long, one of you feels criticized, the other feels dismissed, and you’re back in the same painful place.
Maybe one of you pushes to talk while the other goes quiet. Maybe the argument ends, but the hurt stays. Or you’ve stopped bringing things up because it feels easier than facing another disagreement.
You may still care deeply about each other and feel unsure how to close the distance.
At Kindred Sol Therapy, couples therapy offers space to understand what keeps happening between you, make room for each person’s experience, and practice new ways to communicate and connect.
Secure online sessions for adult couples located in New York.
Join the Couples Therapy Waitlist
Preparing to welcome clients. Joining the waitlist is free and does not commit you to therapy or reserve an appointment.
Does this sound like your relationship?
You have the same argument again and again, without feeling that anything gets resolved.
One of you wants to talk immediately while the other shuts down or needs distance.
Everyday conversations turn into defensiveness, criticism, or misunderstanding.
You feel lonely in the relationship, even when you’re together.
It’s difficult to ask for reassurance, affection, or support without tension.
Past hurt makes it hard to trust each other or feel secure.
You want things to change but don’t know how to begin without another argument.
You don’t need to agree on everything—or have the perfect explanation—to seek support. We can begin with what feels difficult and what each of you hopes will change.
Understand the cycle beneath the conflict
An argument about chores, time together, or a missed text can carry something deeper: “Do I matter to you?” “Can I rely on you?” “Is it safe to tell you what I need?”
When those questions feel unanswered, you may respond by pushing harder, defending yourself, withdrawing, or going quiet. Your partner’s response can then make your own hurt feel even stronger.
Past relationship experiences can also shape how each of you responds to closeness, uncertainty, and conflict.
With a trauma-informed, attachment-focused approach, we’ll explore these patterns and their impact. We’ll make room for both people’s experiences while helping each of you take responsibility for how you respond.
What we can work toward together
Recognizing the pattern sooner
Notice what sets conflict in motion, how it escalates, and where you can begin responding differently.
Expressing what you need more clearly
Find words for the hurt, fear, or need underneath frustration, and practice listening without immediately defending or pulling away.
Staying connected through disagreement
Develop ways to slow down, manage overwhelming emotions, and return to difficult conversations with more care.
Repairing after conflict
Practice acknowledging impact, taking responsibility, and following through after an apology.
Exploring trust and emotional closeness
Understand what has made connection difficult and identify the changes that could help your relationship feel more secure.
We’ll choose goals together based on your relationship and what matters to each of you.
What will couples sessions feel like?
You don’t have to arrive calm, in agreement, or knowing exactly what to say.
I’m Yolanda, and I’ll help guide the conversation so we can slow down and understand what’s happening. We’ll pay attention to how each of you experiences the relationship, where conversations get stuck, and what you need help expressing.
You can expect warmth, thoughtful questions, and an active, collaborative process. I may pause an exchange, help you put words to something difficult, or invite you to practice a different response together.
Our work includes making sense of the hurt and practicing changes you can bring into everyday life.
Learn more about Yolanda and her approach
Do we both need to be ready?
You may feel differently about starting therapy. One partner may be hopeful while the other feels hesitant or unsure.
You don’t need the same expectations, but couples therapy does require both partners’ willingness to participate. The consultation is an opportunity to ask questions and discuss whether this approach fits your needs.
If you feel afraid of your partner, pressured to attend, or concerned about retaliation for speaking openly, joint sessions may not be the right starting point. Please raise those concerns privately before scheduling couples sessions.
Session details and fees
Format: Secure online video sessions.
Who we serve: Adult couples; both partners must be physically located in New York during sessions.
Session length: 75 minutes.
Standard rate: $250 per session.
Payment: Private pay. We do not accept insurance directly.
We can provide a superbill upon request for possible out-of-network reimbursement. Couples therapy coverage varies, and a superbill does not guarantee reimbursement. Ask your insurer specifically about coverage for couples therapy before beginning.
Read our fees and insurance FAQs
Take a step toward a different conversation
You don’t have to solve the pattern before reaching out. You can start by making room to understand it together.
Join the waitlist, and when openings become available, I’ll email you about availability and scheduling a 15-minute consultation. We’ll briefly discuss what brings you to couples therapy, your questions, fees, and whether working together feels like a good fit.
Then you can decide whether to move forward.
Join the Couples Therapy Waitlist
Joining does not commit you to therapy or guarantee an appointment.